PARENTS IN ACTION

Teen Scene XXIV, Feb 10th, Give us your comments! (Please be mindful not to mention specific children, we have offered all the participants anonymity and want to keep it a “safe environment” for teens to speak out.)

Test prep in Manhattan appears to be a very profitable business, with some companies charging in excess of $500 per hour – for a tutor. Have these tutors unlocked secrets at the very heart of these tests?  Are there secrets to be unlocked, or is test success more a result of a motivated student and lots of practice? There is certainly no scientific study showing evidence one way or the other. But panicked parents are afraid to be left behind. To be sure, there are many NYC students who attend group classes or work with great tutors that they found on Craigslist or by word of mouth.  Anecdotally, it appears that these kids see improved test scores as well.

Are fancy test prep companies the “it bag” of the private school world?  Is there more value to be found in an expensive tutor relative to less pricey assistance?  Do colleges have an expectation that kids at NYC private schools must score higher than those at suburban public schools?   How did we even get to this place?  What can a panicked parent do?

Looking at my son’s class of 7^th graders I can’t help but notice the disparity in development.  Some of the girls began to develop in 5^th grade, and others haven’t started yet in 7^th. Some of the boys began last year, and developed into little (and not so little) men over the summer. It seems almost cruel that their bodies are changing more rapidly than their emotions and maturity can  keep pace.  My son is a “late bloomer” and has barely begun to enter puberty. He has some friends his size, but many others loom over him and could use a shave! And many girls with makeup and their uber fashionista clothes look sophisticated and older, belying the inexperienced 13 year old inside.

Of course all the children will go through puberty–now or in high school, but for the present moment, feeling “different” in any way, be it shorter, taller, more developed or less developed than your friends can prove disconcerting for even the most confident of kids.

Any thoughts to share for parents of early-developers/late-bloomers?

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